People talk about positive change a lot nowadays. And it’s good to think about what sort of good habits, goals and healthy stuff you would like to add to your life. But I don’t want to add to my brain strain, I would prefer to address certain things I’m already doing. And of course, I made some free printable stationery to help me on my way.
And by ‘address’ I mean ‘pull the plug on’ – here’s the stuff I’m going to stop doing;
- Avoiding being in pictures with my kids. I really don’t like being in pictures in general and I’m happy with my frame-dodging ways in social situations. But when it comes to avoiding getting in pictures with my kids, that’s not cool.
- Offering to do things that I really have no time to do. Learning how to say no was a hard lesson for me, it came way too late in life. But recently I realised that it’s not just saying no that I have trouble with, I actually offer to do things all the time too. I like being helpful, I like to volunteer, I firmly believe that if someone has to do it, it may as well be me. But sometimes I need to wait and see if someone else wants to put their hand up first.
- Following people on social media who make me feel shit about myself. So basically I’m going to stop following bikini-clad mothers of newborns. I’m not hating on them. I am bloody impressed with them and they are super inspirational and I’m sure lovely to the core. I know they are more than their mermaid-like-physiques. It’s not them, it’s me. They make me feel ‘less than’ (and I know all of those feelings come from somewhere internal but whatever) I’m going to stop it.
- Comparing. My kids to each other and to other kids. Comparing my life, my career, my ability to keep plants alive. I’m going to stop. The funny thing is that I never worry when my kids are in different places than their peers or each other at similar ages, but the fact that I do notice these things is still a problem. I’m subconsciously making judgements about all sorts of stuff and I want to stop it now.
- Not paying attention to people’s names when I meet them. It’s all good to say, ‘I’m really bad at names’ but actually, it’s a bit shit. If I know the Kardashian’s kid’s names, I can bloody work harder to remember the names of people who I meet at gymnastics. I’m smart enough to put my mind to it and make it stick. No excuses.